I was talking with my mom this week about something that has really made me think and question things close to my heart and my beliefs, I am going to share it with you because I think it will do the same for you.
I posted something a few days ago on my blog-read here-that was pretty heart felt and more honest than some may be comfortable with. My Mom and I were at lunch and she gave me a very loving warning against putting things out there, specifically on the internet, for anyone to read and what that means not only to me personally, but to me as a Pastor and the dangers of people using that information out of context or against me. I was pretty defensive saying, “well then I don’t want to know those people.” which was really just a way to say “I want to be able to say what I want with no repercussions!” I became like a little girl with pig-tails, legs dangling off the Panera booth (as I still do when my Mom is giving me a word of correction). I was angry at the thought of not being able to be real, genuine and share that with other for the benefit of encouraging others or motivating others to do the same in order to pursue freedom from struggles.
My Mom has been in ministry for over 25 years and knows what it means to put herself out there and really share honestly about current struggles in her life, but I am new to the whole title and how it effects the way I communicate and to who. My Mom has experienced being real only to receive judgment and misunderstanding, and even losing people she called friends. The warning she was sharing was simple:
Don’t put yourself in harms way for the sake of being “real” with others. Choose wisely the places that you share and to who you are sharing it with. Not everyone walks in love and not everyone will give you grace and understanding, so only tell those who are closest to you and are trustworthy.
My mom said one thing that has really stuck with me: That my generation places peer pressure on one another to share more than they are obligated creating too much sensitive information in the wrong hands.
What do you think? Are we going too far with what we share? Are we putting ourselves in harms way?
My Mom at my age.